All too often, as women we make the end of our marriage mean something negative about us and we come to believe in those meanings and thereby dis-empower ourselves. We exacerbate the loss of self-esteem and confidence. We add to the sense of loss, pain and confusion.
Don’t Make this Divorce Mean Something About You that Isn’t True
How you are feeling right now is not how you will feel in the future. Feelings change all the time. Feelings are not facts unless you make them so. All kinds of negative feelings and thoughts will be running through you head but they are not facts, just thoughts and feelings.
Heal, Let Go of Emotional Baggage and Take Back Your Power
Look at this experience and see where you might have done things differently.
- Notice if you might have been an enabler of bad behavior.
- Notice if you gave away your power.
- Notice where you need to take responsibility.
- Look at your part.
- See if there was any old emotional baggage that you carried into this marriage that did not serve you…and I can guarantee that we all carry around old emotional baggage that affects our ability to be in a successful relationship.
This is your chance to clean it up and grow and prosper as a human being.
With hindsight, you will glean life lessons and deep wisdom
You will come to see yourself in a different light altogether. If you saw yourself as a victim once, you can now be the heroine of your divorce story. You will see yourself as having triumphed over this loss and regain your optimism for life, your self-esteem and your power. You will reconnect with what is important to you. You will get in touch with your passions again. You will go on to create a new and better life after divorce.
Divorce advice for women: You will survive and thrive after your divorce
Stuck in the grieving period, everything is colored by loss and everything seems bleak. It is like being in the midst of a blinding snowstorm. We simply cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel but the light still exists. This too shall pass. You will survive and thrive after your divorce. All it takes is time and effort.