What is Divorce Recovery ...

Favorite Quote

Anger and hatred are the real enemies. These are the forces that we most need to confront and defeat, not the temporary enemies who appear intermittently throughout our life.

His Holiness the Dalai Lama

What you might be Feeling as you go through the Stages of Divorce…

Angry!!!

The emotions that erupt as a result of separation and divorce can be absolutely frightening. You might not have known that you could possess such extreme feelings, whether they are denial, grief, sadness and depression or anger, rage, bitterness or resentment.

How about just feeling like you are going crazy?

Angry, scared and confused?

Angry and out of control? Depressed and can’t get out of bed?

Whatever your emotions, understand that they are part of the process of ending one way of life in order to begin a new chapter in your life. What doesn’t kill you will make you a stronger and better person!

These are all normal feelings

The thing to remember is that these are all normal, albeit extremely difficult, feelings attached to this traumatic Life Transition and loss and that as is true in life in general, this too shall pass. I know that sounds pretty empty at this point in time and yet it is true. How you feel today is not how you will feel in a few months, a year, etc.

You may not be able to see the future now but it exists. It’s like being caught in a terrible snowstorm where you cannot see a foot in front of you. The sun still shines, it still exists…you just cannot see it through this storm of emotions.

There are Gifts

At this juncture, you may not be able to see that this divorce might be the chance to conquer emotional baggage that you have been holding onto for years. You probably cannot see that there is tremendous opportunity for self-growth, for gleaning wisdom from this experience but I promise you that if you do the work of self-assesment, you will receive these gifts. This could be your chance to heal, make changes and recreate yourself and your life.

There are better coping mechanisms available to you

Know that there are better coping mechanisms available to you to make this journey a little bit easier. There are tools you can use to manage your anxiety, stress and fear. There are alternate perspectives that will lighten the load. There are support systems available to you to ease your mind. There are things you can do to make this process less painful and even illuminating.

Let’s talk.

This is a crazy time. I know. Been there, done that.
Contact me today and we can discuss the best ways of coping with the turmoil of your separation or divorce. Your first visit is free.