The Loss Felt in a Divorce

How Life Coaching can help you deal with Loss

The loss involved in a divorce is as painful as a death. In many ways it is a death of an entire way of life. But what we need to know is this: it is not so much what happens to us in life, rather it is how we handle what happens to us that is important. Remember this because it is the truth.

Face the Reality of Life and Go on

If we look around at those individuals who have suffered great loss yet still have a life that brings them happiness and meaning, we see a person who has had the courage to face the reality of their life and go on to learn and grow and create something new.

Within Every Loss is an Opportunity to Reinvent Oneself

They were able to make peace with their loss and move on with their life, albeit a changed life. They understood, after a time, that within every loss is an opportunity to reinvent oneself or create something new. They got that everything happens for a reason. They were brutally honest with themselves in order to save their own lives.

Everything is in a Constant State of Change

We know that change is the one constant in life. Nothing stays the same. It is the primary law of nature and physics. Everything is in a constant state of change, much invisible to the naked eye. The same goes for us human beings.

Accept What IS versus How we WANT Things to be

We must learn how to handle the losses that life brings us and rebuild our lives anew. We grieve; we learn to accept what ‘is’ versus how we ‘want’ things to be; we get in touch with our deep, authentic self and we move on to create a different and new life. The alternative is to give up on life. Not a great alternative.

There must be a Grieving Process

We also know that the hardest part of a loss is learning to accept this new reality and operate within the new geography. Nonetheless, it can and must be done. Once we have achieved a sense of closure, we can move forward. In every ending there is a new beginning but first we must accept the ending.

Release your Desire and Energy

Many losses have the quality of ‘it was meant to be’. A marriage breaks down yet someone finally finds themself and their purpose in life…all because of the crisis. Crisis and loss often are the smack in the head that we need to move us out of complacency and the false sense of security we may have built up around our self. Certainly this does not apply in case of a death, but in many other instances it releases a desire and energy that has lain dormant for too long.

A Life Coach will help you to see the hidden opportunity in your loss and act upon it when you are ready. There is life out there, perhaps even a better one than you have yet to experience.

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Suggested Reading:

When Bad Things Happen to Good People
by Harold S. Kushner (Author)