Coaching for Change


During and after our divorce, we all have a strong  desire to protect our children and ensure they are safe and sound.  There are well-known strategies for achieving that goal that most of us know but what it all comes down to is the question: Do you love your kids more than you hate your...
“Do any human beings ever realize life while they live it?—every, every minute?” This is a quote from ‘Our Town’, a famous play by Thornton Wilder.  I saw a revival recently and remembered how I last enjoyed the play when I was 12 years old because my big brother was in his high school adaptation. The line...

Politics in DC

I was very impressed with President Obama’s State of the Union speech last night when he attempted to admonish both Democrats and Republicans on their abysmal record of getting anything accomplished for the American people due to bi-partisan pettiness.  Our representatives in Congress are more concerned with being right than with...
Why did I marry my Father?  Why do I over-react when my spouse does certain things?  Why do I make the same mistakes over and over again?  Try this explanation out… What if we married the person, possibly on a sub-conscious level, who would lead us to clean up all the adverse emotional baggage we have...

Tiger Woods: Its About Him

As a Divorce Recovery Coach,  all too often I hear tales of infidelity.  More often than not, the spouse who has been betrayed makes it mean all sorts of terrible things about themselves.  Their partner cheats and it becomes all about what is wrong with the betrayed partner:  I obviously was not good enough, I...

Surviving Loss

Watching the memorial service for 9/11 this morning, I listened to a young choir sing Mariah Carey’s song,  Hero.  The line that resonated for me was, ” You will come to learn the truth that the hero lies in you.” To have survived the loss of a loved one who was snatched from them so suddenly...
I know from personal experience that one doesn’t just let go of the past one day and everything is hunky-dory forever.  Ah were it so!  Divorce Recovery like any other discipline is an on-going process.  Even the best of us have a blip on the screen of life every now and then.  That nasty little...

Accepting Loss

I saw a play last week in NYC entitled, Next to Normal.  The story is about a woman who is bi-polar.  Her disease was set off by  the death of her 8 month old son. She was unable to accept his passing to the point that he actually was alive for her.  She saw and...

A Perfect Moment

I attend a good deal of live theater in New York City.  I believe in taking  advantage of this incredible City that is at my fingertips and the theater in NYC is one of passions.  As in life, some plays are phenomenal and some not so great.  A few nights ago I saw a not...
In divorce recovery as well as any other major loss in life, acceptance is the most important step we must take.  By acceptance I mean the acceptance of your reality as it exists for you right now:  what is and not what we think should or could be.  Acceptance means being grounded in reality with...
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