All around us we see the repercussions of the financial disaster. People have lost the bulk of their life savings that had been invested in the stock market. Unemployment is rising everyday and all around us people are losing their jobs. Credit is unavailable. Home values have plummeted and many of us have mortgages that...
I believe that New Year’s resolutions are unique and meaningful opportunities to commit to positive change in our lives. For those of you who are undergoing a divorce or are recently divorced, a deep commitment to create change that will move you forward into a new life is hopefully very compelling. What better time to...
President-Elect Obama’s theme of change strikes a common chord. The world and everything in it, whether animate or inanimate, is in a constant state of change. This is an unarguable fact, the truth. Physics confirms this. Just take a look at the world around you and you will see that everything changes and nothing remains...
In divorce recovery as well as any other major loss in life, acceptance is the most important step we must take. By acceptance I mean the acceptance of your reality as it exists for you right now: what is and not what we think should or could be. Acceptance means being grounded in reality with...
I attend a good deal of live theater in New York City. I believe in taking advantage of this incredible City that is at my fingertips and the theater in NYC is one of passions. As in life, some plays are phenomenal and some not so great. A few nights ago I saw a not...
I saw a play last week in NYC entitled, Next to Normal.  The story is about a woman who is bi-polar.  Her disease was set off by  the death of her 8 month old son. She was unable to accept his passing to the point that he actually was alive for her.  She saw and...
I know from personal experience that one doesn’t just let go of the past one day and everything is hunky-dory forever. Ah were it so! Divorce Recovery like any other discipline is an on-going process. Even the best of us have a blip on the screen of life every now and then. That nasty little...
As a Divorce Recovery Coach, all too often I hear tales of infidelity. More often than not, the spouse who has been betrayed makes it mean all sorts of terrible things about themselves. Their partner cheats and it becomes all about what is wrong with the betrayed partner: I obviously was not good enough, I...
Divorce as a Means to Losing Old Emotional Baggage
17 Feb
Posted by shelleystile as Divorce Recovery
Why did I marry my Father? Why do I over-react when my spouse does certain things? Why do I make the same mistakes over and over again? Try this explanation out…
What if we married the person, possibly on a sub-conscious level, who would lead us to clean up all the adverse emotional baggage we have...
Watching the memorial service for 9/11 this morning, I listened to a young choir sing Mariah Carey’s song, Hero. The line that resonated for me was, ” You will come to learn the truth that the hero lies in you.”
To have survived the loss of a loved one who was snatched from them so suddenly...